Empathy. A curse or a blessing?


Definition:

empathy [ˈɛmpəθɪ]n

1. the power of understanding and imaginatively entering into another person’s feelings.

2. the attribution to an object, such as a work of art, of one’s own emotional or intellectual feelings about it[from Greek empatheia affection, passion, intended as a rendering of German Einfühlung, literally: a feeling in;

Having been an empath all my life (even when I was too young to know the word meaning) I can sympathize with some of my fellow empaths when they say they have had enough.  To me it has been a blessing up until a few years ago when I started working again on my spiritual and healing path. The ability of feeling someone feelings or even auras has saved me from more than one sticky and potentially dangerous situation. But once I started opening myself up more I also started feeling more. And sometimes it really does my head in. Literally. I never really liked crowds, now I have to make sure I really shield myself from other people emotions, if I don’t rivers of feelings, emotions, vibrations from the Auric field come barging in. And most of the time they are not pleasant. But why are some people strongly empathic and some don’t literally feel a thing? Are we born empaths? Personally I think so. And I also think that if a person starts opening up their so-called sixth sense it can emphasize empathy.

I sometimes hate it though (well hate is a strong word but sometimes I really do), because I do not really want to get anything from someone and yet it creeps in. And I know the little voice in my gut is right but then my left brain steps in and they both argue. And the little voice always win. The only times in my life I have really hurt myself or done something that worked out really bad for me were the ones when I completely ignored my feelings. Example thinking someone is not telling the truth or not wanting to work for them and then getting robbed there. Sensing danger from someone (with no obvious reason or sign) and then getting assaulted. These are just 2 examples. Now I listen. Always.

One of the most horrible experiences I had in the past was many years ago: I was walking down to the shops to get some food and I turned the corner. This guy in a leather coat, open shirt and wearing a big crucifix necklace walks toward me and overtakes me. Without reason my breath stopped, I choked and felt around me like he casted a net over me, sticky. He looked at me straight in the eye and kept going and I had to stop to be sick. Nothing like it has ever happened since but then now I always make sure I am properly grounded and cleansed. I know it sounds cliché’ but I can only describe what I felt from him as evil. Have no idea who he was and thankfully I have never seen him again. The problem with empathy is that it is almost uncontrollable, even when one is grounded, emotions and feelings can still creep in. As the Earth magnetic fields are shifting and changing constantly and at present getting stronger, it is also possible that our brains and responses will be influenced by them. More and more people are reporting an increase in spiritual and “paranormal” experiences and, for us that are actually working in increasing them, it might be a long road to try to at least controlling the input of emotions assaulting us. Something else I have learned through this. Through the years the majority of people I come into contact with (wanted or not) are giving off very stressed and negative energies. Yes, you would say, life is hard. Well yes it is at times but for a true empath this is the cause of one too many migraines. For now I just live with it and try do my best to not let it affect me too much.